My emails conclude with the salutation: Serenity, Freedom & Joy. Here you will explore how you experience these three qualities. All emotions matter. The emotions that are more difficult to experience are essential survival signals that help you process bumpy situations and avoid danger. Stuffing them only contributes to emotional suppression, which results in chronic […]
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“Crying has long been dismissed as weakness or emotional instability, especially in professional or public spaces,” says Lynne McCarthy, author of The Science and Soul of Tears: How Crying Is Self-Care. “Science is now catching up to what poets and healers have always known: tears are medicine.” (Psychology Today, October 2025) When I was a
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I don’t like to hurt people’s feelings and when I do, ideally, I take responsibility, check in and repair. But every now and then, when triggered, I have slipped into old habits of unawareness. In those moments I may have engaged in “unintentional gaslighting.” Many people grew up hearing these types of statements, and, as
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My flight was delayed. It’s the beginning of a long weekend to visit family and I made good use of the extra time to nap, do some yoga, get in some steps and listen to a novel. Now I’m sitting on the plane for what seems like an eternity because it is delayed again. Sure,
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The anecdote I tell in this short video points to the way that we shut down our emotions as well as sometimes the emotions of the adults and children around us. Watch or read the transcript of the anecdote below. The Birthday Party My partner and I gave a birthday party for my two daughters
After divorce, ending a long term marriage, I didn’t know who I was. Everything had changed so profoundly, that I was reeling and confused. It took years to heal. But even when I was back on my feet to some degree, my identity had shifted. I wasn’t completely sure of who I was. A drastic
Do you sometimes set a resolution and find that your body sits down on the good intention like a big donkey? Try as you might you can’t get the donkey off of the resolution. Instead of setting a resolution, it helps to approach the desired change in behavior from the bottom up. I don’t mean
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[1.5 min read] “Why do we have to suffer on Earth? What’s the point?” I’ve heard people ask. I’ve met, studied or performed with – and sometimes known well – many renowned individuals: athletes, performers, artists, authors, and thinkers/philosophers. And, they’ve all suffered – divorces, deaths, tragedies, the mother wound, etc. Their losses led to
[2 min read] This is a post about how the holidays can trigger your birth trauma. As a result you may feel like you “don’t belong.” The season’s high stress, family dynamics, and disrupted routines can act as triggers. Towards the end of this post, I offer some suggestions so that you can step into
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Do you want to deepen intimacy and invite love and understanding into your relationships? It goes to follow that you need to work that muscle. If relationships are sticky right now and you feel like you may be better off alone, odds are you struggle with complex trauma or CPTSD. CLICK on the 4.5 minute
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